A bright 30-something woman, Susan vowed that she would never return to her abusive ex-boyfriend. But two weeks ago, she did.
She was driving down the interstate while he sat in the passenger seat. They were traveling to a concert in another city. His rage flared into a frenzy. She had seen this way too many times before. Read more
I like to give people what they want, and one of the best ways to do that is to ask them. So I asked Jesus what he wants for Christmas and this is what I heard him say.
Jesus: First of all, I don’t need any gifts. I have everything I want because I am one with God. So please don’t feel that you need to get me anything.
Benita: But I want to! I want to show my love for you because my heart is overflowing with gratitude for who you are and what you have done for us on planet Earth. You loved us so much that you incarnated to manifest a profound quality of love on Earth that had not been seen before. In only 30+ years you made such a difference here that people all over the world remember you and try to emulate.
Jesus: Please don’t emulate me. Remember when I told you “You can do all these things I do and more, because I go to the Father?” Read more
The North Georgia Mountains cradled a group of 20 people who gathered for an Intensive Personal Growth weekend retreat. It was one of my first retreats and I felt uneasy. I was examining a lifetime of not being true to my self for fear that someone would not respect me. I realized that if I kept abandoning my self through my self-judgment that I could only expect more of the same from others. I was successful in business, and I looked good, but my body was stiff and hurt a lot. My breath was shallow. Deep down inside I was scared and insecure, but I hid it well. My self-image certainly did not include crying in public places.
Committed to being true to myself, I decided to break out of the “I have to please others to be liked” mindset. Read more
I’m often asked, “What does it mean to be your Authentic Self?
Does it mean that you are happy all the time? If you aren’t happy all the time, does that mean you have not arrived at being truly authentic? Does it mean that you are never afraid? No, not at all.
Here’s my definition of what it means to live as your Authentic Self.
1. You are continually growing into the divine blueprint God designed for you. No two snowflakes are exactly alike, and neither are we. You use every situation to become more conscious on all levels: spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical. Read more
1. Vulnerability + authenticity + empathy = safety and intimacy
2. Tell the truth faster.
3. Ask: What can I do to love my partner in more purity?
4. Increase your ability to love yourself deeply.
5. Find the innermost pain, be non-judgmental. Stay present. Breathe! Read more
“Our Journey Together With Benita A. Esposito”
In the following story, you’ll see how a distressed couple on the verge of divorce transformed their marriage in six months. The story is told by the wife. Scroll to the end to read about the breakthroughs and what worked in therapy.
Anxiety can be a healthy response to stress management, and can help people cope according to researchers at the National Institute of Mental Health. When anxious fearful feelings interrupt daily actives and become excessive and unwarranted, anxiety becomes a problem. Anxiety disorders can take several forms, from fears of social interactions to obsession and panic attacks. Read more
Research published by the American Medical Association indicates that 90% of all disease is stress-related. Our mind, body, emotions, spirit and relationships intricately affect each other. When we heal the emotional or spiritual root of dis-ease, pain can ease up. Sometimes other physical symptoms vanish completely. I’ll show you what I mean in the following story. Emily’s heart condition and her emotional pain healed when her husband joined her in counseling. Psychotherapy can accelerate healing, and is used as an adjunct to medicine. Read more
What do you want to create? What has God planted in your heart? A job that feeds your spirit and calms your body? Time to relax and heal? Relationships in which you feel cherished? Health? Life-work balance? A home that you call your sanctuary?
If you want your external reality to change, you have to change your internal reality. Read more
My first mentor told me, “Conflict is a necessary part of intimacy.” 
I didn’t want to hear that. I hated conflict, but his words rang true. I knew I wasn’t good at conflict management, and because of that, many of my relationships did not thrive. That was 30 years ago and since then, I have spent zillions of hours learning how to handle conflict productively. Read more
